In a short span of a month, countless challenges cropped up. For a cozy family of four, arguments that cause our roof to shake were rare. However, let's just say this doesn't seem like a good year for us so far. As children grow, we yearn for more freedom, for more respect, for more understanding, for the hope of our parents will treat us more as a friend than as a parent. As parents age, they yearn for their children to be mature, to be more understanding, to realise that as a parent, what they have done so far is always for the good of their children. I'm glad i understand the rational of my parents, but sometimes, what an elder deems right, might not always be the final say. Times have changed and so has the approach towards coping or performing something. For people who are of an age prominent to delinquency, it is always never easy for them to listen to advices, needless to say, to understand the heart of their parents.
Growing teenagers.... the root problem of almost every single family i suppose. It's not that the parents have not put in enough effort to mould the child into a better person, but it's also not the child who is at fault for expressing himself. So who is to be blamed?
Mr. Communication.
Communication spoils everything every time. Sometimes, it's just so hard for either parties to reach out, to show that they care. I don't know about others, maybe it's just that im a very emotional person, but as I grew, i could feel the branches holding us together on our family tree getting weaker and weaker. it's like it could snap anytime and it's really scary to see a closely knitted family to begin with fall apart because of a cursed 'C' word - communication. It's really upsetting to see age inversely proportionate to family love. Growing teenagers seeks their friends for comfort more than their family, they venture out into the world of bgr, they start taking life too lightly, believing that there is no point working hard for the future, because right before you know it, you're on your way to adulthood, waving goodbye to what used to be a youthful and carefree life. Looking at these thoughts, i sniggered at how silly and non sensible humans can be and is glad that i'm not and wasn't 'one of those' kids.
Even so, seeing someone dear to me becoming 'one of those' kids made me think about what i have done as an elder sibling, how i could have been a better role-model and how i could have tried to shower more love and concern to my used to be adorable baby boy turned insensible, corrupted, disobedient teen.
I just hope one day, he will realise that his family is the most important treasure in life and that studying is a million times more important than bgr at such a young age. If someone is meant for you, god will arrange that and make both of you reunite somehow in the future, but if you don't see each other again, don't start blaming, it just means that there's no fate between the 2 of you and god will find you another partner in life. I hope the time takes for him to appreciate these will come soon....
Well, on another note, it's surprising that i seem to be a very selfish person after all. When my parents told me that i should go to a JC, i should have read between the lines of their opinion. While they used reasons such as "you can study", "you can fulfill your dreams of going uni", "you can always pursue media in uni", what they really meant was " you know your brother's ability, he is most probably going to a poly. and we don't have that much money to put two children through their poly education. we don't qualify for funding, and you know our family's income can get inconsistent and by the time your brother is in poly, your dad might no longer be able to work as hard as he is now." Seems like i'm quite dumb. realised this only after 2 years later. If i had went to a jc, some of the arguments we had might not even have existed.
Sheesh....
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